For Cady Gaspar, the birth of her son marks the beginning of a new chapter in her family's story.
“Yeah, I think my parents kind of motivated me to just keep my focus and do what I got to do for my family, especially when they got sober and ended up going to college and stuff. He really put a lot of things in perspective for me,” Cady said,
Cady grew up on Oahu with her two brothers and as she began to form her new family she recalled the lessons learned in a household where her parents struggled with addiction.
“So it's just looking at that, I would never want to put my son through that. I would never want him to feel like, especially because at the time, I would blame myself and I would feel like the reason my mom and dad didn't want to be together and have something to do with me. I would never want my son to feel that way. And I looked at that as like a motivation for my relationship with my boyfriend and my son,” Cady said.
Cady’s parents by the way have just celebrated their 19th anniversary and more than 5 years in sobriety
“For them love conquered a lot of their situation. And I believe like if I just focused on my son and loving my son and doing what's best for my son, then there's no way I can go wrong. Especially because we're new parents. This is our first baby. And there's going to be a lot of challenges and a lot of things that we go through that it's going to be difficult for us. But I believe that we can make it through whatever, as long as we have perseverance,” Cady said.
Cady's boyfriend, Isaiah Michael, says right before the birth of their son Isaiah Michael Jr. -- or I.J. for short -- things fell into place. After leaving one job he found another.
“This all happened on the whim too. So it's like, I just got out of a job and I was only working there for a little while. So it's been like four almost five months since I've even had one and coming closer to his due date. Things just fell into place,” Isaiah said.
And if you can help make the holiday's a little brighter Cady, Isaiah and I.J. would appreciate the support. Now they are hoping the happiness of the holidays will fall into place, too.
“We just want to say thank you so much. We really do appreciate it. We know the times are tough as it is and for your family to adopt us and invite us. It's kind of like for us inviting us into your family for the holidays. And considering this and thinking about us and getting things for us and our son is just, it's a really big blessing and we could never thank you enough. And we just, yeah, I don't know how else to say it. But just we're just so thankful. That's just the way Mahalo you plenty,” Cady said.